When A Friend Departs…

It has not been long since I knew Martin. We met in a group of English language on Facebook. With his charming personality, it did not take long for me to become friends. We talked for hours and argues over different topics until one of us gave up. But our friendship was never affected by it.

I could not contact him for a long time. Today I suddenly missed him. I dropped by to his page to say “hi” only to get the bad news of his sudden death. I contacted a mutual friend to  ask about it. She could not give proper details but she let me know that he suddenly had chest pain and passed away on the way to hospital.

People often take friendships for granted. It takes a very special heart to give friendship a real meaning. Martin was one of those kind people who could make anyone happy with his refreshing personality. We never met. Thanks to modern technology that I had the opportunity to know such a great soul, even if for a short time.

It is a terrible loss for all of us who cherished him. He and his family will be in our thoughts.

Good Girl Syndrome

I never understood why people are so crazy about the Bengali TV serials, especially the ones that come on Star Jalsha. I have tried to watch a few myself and never found out the secret recipe that compelled people not to miss a single episode to the extent where a woman killed her husband for not letting her watch it or my parents never letting me even touch the remote when their favourite serials are shown (which is almost all of the soaps that are shown on that channel).

The tradition they talk about, the values they teach are the ones where the reason a woman exist is to get married, to serve her husband and child, where a bold woman taking charge of the situation is usually the vamp. These serials are perpetuating the social stereotypes. When feminists are trying hard to improve the condition of women in media and in real life, these serials are doing nothing but feeding the old bullshit double-standards known as “Tradition”.

TV serials have become an intrinsic part of the common people. It is okay to show the stereotypes as long as they are portrayed as something to get rid of and not glorified as they are now.

Shitty Politics

Last night when I was coming from my class, being asked to close the windows of the bus because some morons might throw cocktail bomb was a new experience. No way to feel safe even when you see polices guarding the places of potential attack. How safe can you feel when innocent people get killed as a sign of successful strike? No way to be at peace even when you are home. With the political turmoil everywhere, it is not surprising to hear slogans by a bunch of people in the day time or evening. How does one explain hearing them at 02:30 at night?

Makes me wonder what kind of hell we are living in..

Inspiration on Robotics

I was reading about some people working on robots at NASA last night. While reading their accomplishments, I realized there is so much I have to learn and do. Not only did they inspire me, they had some valuable suggestions to give.

Each person had different suggestions but one suggestion which all of them gave was to get involved. All of them agreed at the point that experience is the key. They emphasized on getting hands-on experience on building robots, no matter how small.

I realized how useful knowledge it was! A brilliant CGPA is surely appealing, but a person who builds circuits in her free time and has knowledge on making machines work with lower grades is better.

The Course

I have joined a course on micro-controllers. It has been more than a month already and it has not been easy.

The classmates there, are all senior to me. Some of them even have working experiences. Also I have joined this course a bit too early. Naturally they have broader knowledge about electronics than me. but I did not give up. I tried to attend all the classes till date.

I could not attend today’s class. Thanks to the political turmoil for that. I have missed boatloads of stuffs. I may get help from the classmates but it will never be like being taught by the teacher.

Workout Experience

Dance is my passion. Thus, when I tried an aerobic exercise work out for the first time, the moves were pretty easy for me to follow. I found it to be quite interesting too. Today is the third day I completed the workout and this time I asked my younger brother to join me.

He is not much of a dancer.  Yet he was enthusiastic. Even when it was hard for him to follow the instructions, he did not give up. That is one of his wonderful qualities, whatever he starts, he never gives up anything in the middle no matter how hard it is.

We completed the workout together. It was fun. When I asked him if he would like to do it again, I expected refusal. To my surprise, he agreed! When it comes to work out, it is always nice to have someone with you to cheer you up.

Intolerance and Sexism

In our society, intolerance is prominent and scary. What is even more terrifying is having to hear such nonsense opinions from educated people.

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I was talking to two classmates while having lunch in a restaurant. Conversation went somewhat this way :

X : …Abortion is a sin.

Y : Oh yes, its terrible.

Me : Abortion is a sin?

X : Yes of course. You are killing a human being here.

Me : Shouldn’t we leave that to the parents? What if they are not ready for a baby yet?

X : Then what’s point in having the child in the first place? They should simply avoid doing immoral stuff.

Me : Well, if they are consented adults, then who are we to judge?

X : We can because it’s against out culture. One can be in a relationship but should not be involved in indecent things.

Me : Well for some people, being in a relationship is counted as indecent things. So are you going to change yourself to comfort them?

X : *smiles*

Me : You can choose to refrain from things that you don’t like. But you can’t judge or force someone to follow your way. It’s like just because you don’t like the colour “blue”, you criticize anyone wearing a blue shirt.

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The conversation didn’t end there, where he merely repeated the same thing over and over. He is one of those guys in my college who always dresses fashionably with western clothes and shows off his gadgets, which again are invented by foreign people. So lecturers about tradition from him was really unbearable. But there was more.

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Another conversation with the same person went like this :

Me : It’s really nice to see girls in sports.

X : Yes. They are always fit.

Me : Of course. They have to practice a lot for hours.

X : Yes, but they are not really desirable.

Me : Why’s that?

X : In our society, men desire to marry those women who have soft bodies. While practicing, their body hardens. Hence they have a hard time finding husbands.

I literally didn’t know how to respond.